Why Love is Hard
Love is a topic that has been discussed countless times in the past and will be discussed countless times in the future. As we progress through time, love seems to get harder and harder to find and maintain. Although technology should move us closer together and make our lives easier, it seems that love (and many other things) does not receive the same benefits.
I believe that love can be as simple as two people having mutual feelings towards each other and a willingness to build upon that feeling. Unfortunately, we are plagued by numerous extraneous factors. Money, location, social pressures, culture, and families are only a small amount of things that make love difficult.
We all need a certain level of wage to live comfortably and enjoy life, but how much do you need to make to be in a good relationship? Maybe you have found your ideal partner, but they can’t afford to raise a child properly, take you out on a luxurious date, or have a beautiful wedding. Would you be willing to have a relationship with someone who can’t do these things? There’s also a chance that you might not meet the person that you feel was meant for you because of money. The wage you make plays a factor into the type of people you associate yourself with, and the people you associate yourself with plays a factor into the establishments that you visit. Amongst many other things, money also can change or reveal a person’s real inner self. The you that you thought you were, might not be the you that you actually are. If used intellectually, money grants you access to many opportunities that just aren’t available for people less financially fortunate. For example, you can use money to delegate menial tasks to other people, freeing up your time to spend with your lover. Also, it can help you boost your superficial assets, which many people pay a bulk of their attention to.
With the world so vast, it is impossible to meet everyone. With the few people in the world that you do meet however, location ends up playing a big role in relationships. Location for high paying jobs, different lifestyles, and being closer to friends are all large factors in determining where someone lives. Distance can easily break apart two people who are in love because they couldn’t find a point of compromise. Location also can mean having a long distance relationship, which is significantly harder than having the ability to see someone daily or weekly. Although it is possible for someone to live a mobile lifestyle in today’s society, it is difficult to raise a child and carry along a significant in multiple locations.
Social pressures are a real thing in societies around the globe. We are expected to date a person who fits a certain type of criteria. Common things on that criteria chart are height, social ranking, looks, and some personality. Whether you follow the social norm or not is dependent on you, but if you are influenced at a young age, chances are you’ll fall victim into expectations that society puts on you. Because of this, you may have passed up someone you feel like you connect with, but society doesn’t approve of. Just keep in mind that society wants to shape you to fit their best interests, not yours.
Family and Culture
Even if you’re the most un-superficial person ever, it is no doubt that families and culture add to the chaos of love. Cultural differences in marriage and relationship views can be conflicting to the point where there are violent outbreaks. For example, diets can be very different, raising a child, and wedding ceremonies can reach conflicts, all of which can make or break a relationship. Families can also break people apart as I have seen it happen. If one family doesn’t approve of the other person or families clashing can put lovers in a very uncomfortable position.
There are millions of other things that make relationships hard, but I feel that these few examples are at the bulk of things. I wanted to point these factors out specifically because most of these things are situations we have little control over. We can make love simple by just accepting the person as a person, and not the circumstances that they are born into.